Small Talk: The Networking Ice Breaker
Updated: Dec 5, 2020
The small talk acts as an ice breaker to open up the initial conversation between strangers every where you do networking either at networking events or any gathering more than 5 people. This initial conversation is important. It is the first opportunity to grow a mutual connection that may lead to future referrals. Hence Small Talk is important aspects of networking events.
A pathological fear of making small talk, often resulting in the sufferer avoiding social and networking events
Many people simply dread the thought of having to carry on conversations with people they don't know. It is easy to label these people as shy. However, very few people are too shy to enjoy talking with others. Rest all people are not afraid to talk; they are just intimidated by the task of finding something to start talking.
That's why Entrepreneur/business owners need to stay on top of pop culture and current affairs. The latest issues and stories in the news are great ways to break the ice and help you find common ground with a strange person with whom you may not have much in common. But with the information explosion, it’s increasingly difficult to have a firm grasp on talk, particularly when it comes to conversations with people in different age brackets. So, how do you start and maintain - a conversation at a networking or other event with someone you don’t know at all?
Just ask questions [ice breaker]
A great way to get people to talk is to ask a few “feeder” questions that will help you learn what the other person is interested in. You don’t have to know anything about the topic to converse about the topic. You just have to know enough to ask the questions.
It’s easier you think. All news & blogs sites have set up their pages with easy-to-read convenient categories, such as Top News, Sports, Entertainment, Startups and Tech. Either at night or first thing in the morning, just take a few minutes to read the headlines, and maybe the first one to two sentences. This will help you to know about “what’s hot” from just a cursory glance. You have enough information to start asking questions and conversing with someone new.
Feel other person like as you are expert.
I still remember when I realized the value of asking questions and letting someone answer them. I was traveling for business to Mumbai via train, I struck up a conversation with the person seated next to me. I’m not sure what started the conversation, but I wasn’t familiar with the business he was in, and I asked a question. That question led to another, then another until the end of that four-hour journey. I realized that he had “small talked” during the entire journey. We made a good connection, I had learned something new, and, as we were gathering our belongings, he complimented me for being a good conversationalist.
A savvy networker reads the sports section in her newspaper from cover to cover every single day specially Cricket, even though she has zero interest in sports. “Why on earth would you subject yourself to this?” I asked her, as I am admittedly not a Cricket fan, either. She replied, “My networking functions are primarily attended by men. I don’t want to stay on the sidelines while important conversations are going on, conversations that invariably start with a discussion about last night’s match.”
Take a few minutes each day to browse enough headlines to arm you with enough knowledge of current events, pop culture and yes, even sports. Use this knowledge as an ice breaker to ask questions and get conversations flowing.
Using small talk is simply a good networking strategy. You’ll also learn a lot from these conversations you might never have learned otherwise.